It’s important to establish and maintain healthy boundaries to give everyone a sense of safety and control, especially during a crisis.
Boundaries around roles and responsibilities clarify everyone’s expectations and reduce uncertainty that can lead to anxiety. Applying new boundaries can initially create tension, but allow for more harmonious relationships in the long term.
How do I set boundaries?
- Take respite or let someone else do the carer role to get a break
- Respond promptly to a crisis, but set limits on responding to non-urgent requests for assistance
- Allow them to make mistakes and learn through trial and error
- Let them know when you are available, rather than being available all the time
- Ask the person to make their own medical appointments or do their own shopping
- Show the person how to carry out a task themselves rather than doing it for them